@satansclit as corny as it sounds communication should be the basis of any relationship, poly/anarchist or not (or so i've been told). I feel like the whole point of relationship anarchy is to define connections with people in ways that work between them, to accuse people of doing that wrong seems quite bad..

might be that they're not ready for a longer/deeper involvement for a multitude of reasons, not limited to the adhd stuff i mentioned before