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- Pronouns
- She/They
- hangs out with people on
- https://cyberia.club
- Gender/orientation
- Demi-femme/Novi gender, demisexual/panromantic/polyamorous
- Hackerspace
- https://layerze.ro
i like kind machines. pro-people-not-dying. anti-nazi. anti-colonizer. pagan, but lazy about it.
I am #HardOfHearing, #nonbinary, polyamourous, into ttrpgs and #tech. Hobbyist #leatherworker, hobbyist scifi author, community builder, and artist.
I like to build #whimsical things that help people to #dream better and form meaningful connections. If you wanna hang out with friendly computer weirdos in Minneapolis, lemme know.
Profile image description: a watercolor painting of a person with pale skin and brown and blue hair laughing. They have a side cut and an audio processor is visible behind their ear. The art style is loose and the eyes are squinched into little crescents.
Joined Jul 2020
re: TDoR, thread of ideas for safety and equity (plenty of tips for allies/folks with power), boosts and additions welcome
If a buddy comes out as trans (and has a similar gender/size to you), ask if they'd like some of your clothes, accessories, or whatever. This is, IMO, one of the most wholesome ways to support someone. When folks do gender-y stuff, rebuilding a wardrobe can be hard, time-consuming, and expensive. Going shopping with them (especially if you're similar genders) can also be fun and helpful.
Be a little careful, though! Sometimes, trying on clothes can feel a little dysphoric for someone. It's hard work to figure out if something is flattering, especially if someone is getting used to seeing their body differently. I try to avoid pushing my opinions on something onto someone unless they ask. If something looks really good, I might tell them that in a general way, but I avoid highlighting specific areas of their body unless I'm 100% sure it would be validating and wouldn't come off as patronizing or whatever.
It's usually easiest to just be a little quieter during 'trying stuff on time', and then do something that's comfy after and doesn't involve a lot of thinking about bodies.
It's also good to give them things and let them try them on at home, and then get back to you another day. They probably won't want everything, but having that space so their can process emotions or whatever, if they want it, can be a considerate thing.
Remember: you don't have any right to see or evaluate how they look in stuff. You're just here to help *them* feel comfy doing that for themselves.
re: TDoR, thread of ideas for safety and equity (plenty of tips for allies/folks with power), boosts and additions welcome
Especially if you're cis, get over yourself and what 'being the kind of person who cares about trans-folks' rights' means to you. Accept that caring about things matters a lot less than actually helping a real person. Your thoughts don't change the world if they don't translate into actions.
re: TDoR, thread of ideas for safety and equity (plenty of tips for allies/folks with power), boosts and additions welcome
When going out with friends, travel together. Something as simple as giving a friend a (two block long) ride to their car can help keep them safer at night. Plus, you get to chat while the car warms up! This one is extra good in the winter.
TDoR, thread of ideas for safety and equity (plenty of tips for allies/folks with power), boosts and additions welcome
Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance.
To the best of my knowledge, none of my trans friends died this year. This is a good year. I hope everybody's year can be like mine, and I hope that all of my years will be like this one.
If you'd like to try to help this happen (and are in a position where you can safely do these things/they feel relevant to you), maybe consider some of the following ideas...
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Trans Day Of
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I will never ever shut up about how Plains Hand Talk was a common language across Plains Indigenous groups for hearing as well as deaf people https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plains_Indian_Sign_Language
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you know shits real when very smart people are suddenly very interested in gotosocial, hometown, misskey and pleroma forks that sprung forth when the pleroma leadership went a little too unhinged for anyone to feel safe
masto ui 4.0.x rousted complacent nerds from slumber and fired up the advocates for safety and quality moderation
this will hopefully end well for those who actually built this place and made it safe for at-risk and marginalized folks and more
please support the folks making this a better place, not the grand standing folk that will reduce your ability to be safe
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UPDATE: no need for further boosting. Thank you everyone!
My boss, Matt Mullenweg, the boss of Automattic, owner of Tumblr, is looking for ex-Twitter employees for Tumblr, saying,
"we're putting on a fast track to see how they can help super-charge Tumblr. We can't absorb thousands of people, but I'd be open to hiring entire teams if they already work great together."
https://twitter.com/photomatt/status/1593726621340426241
Our "work with us" page: https://automattic.com/work-with-us/
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I've updated our little list of queer and kink-friendly instances with a few new ones. Let me know if you'd like your instance added to the list! #admin https://blog.woof.group/docs/see-also
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I've got plans to enjoy the company of fediverse friends from all over the world tonight, and you're invited!
Join me, my acrobatics partner @SocialGaff, and the folks that keep us company in the #CircusInPlace video chat.
We start our evening with the Emperor Norton Coffee Hour at 7pm UTC-6, and then train our circus skills all night.
https://meet.jit.si/circushomegym
Hang out while we do handstands, find joy while we juggle, and relax in the company of wonderful weirdos.
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And let's be honest. Many white 'liberals' and 'progressives' feel like they have some ownership of the fedi and can dictate what the culture is rather than being amenable to it changing as the user base grows and diversifies.
Many white people feel like they can very rudely make demands of people they don't know and expect people to acquiesce. And that's just unearned entitlement.
There are always growing pains when any platform has gains that have just happened over the last couple of weeks. We need patience, care, and understanding to let the culture grow organically.
What we don't need is white people bitterly complaining that their fabricated view of the world is changing because reality is no longer deniable.
Drink some water and shut the fuck up. You're not in any danger. LOL, you're just a bigot. You'll be fine.
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I just wanted to share one of the pieces of work I'm most proud of this year.
In June I gave the University of Oxford annual disability lecture.
This lecture explored my work around unwanted touching as experienced by disabled people.
It is the culmination of work that started on Twitter 4 years ago.
I am very grateful to everyone who has shared their stories & supported #JustAskDontGrab over the years.
You can find the podcast & transcript here ⬇️
https://podcasts.ox.ac.uk/hands-navigating-unwanted-touch-consent-and-disability
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you know me i’ll go to bat for this platform but that doesn’t mean i don’t acknowledge that its essentially the social media equivalent of ham radio
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Holy shit it was HBOMBERGUY that's responsible for posts being called toots on Mastodon, I'm fucking shaking right now
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Good morning to everyone this morning! Normalize recognizing that your dreams of a better world are vital and beautiful.💖🏳️🌈🦄🦸🏽♂️✊🏽🔥
#GoodMorning #Gay #Nonbinary #Dreams #LGBTQ #BlackLivesMatter #Queer #Hope #Community
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At the risk of boring folk, here are a couple of images I took earlier.
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I'll be at the star-wars-themed night at #GroundZeroNightclub tonight! If you see me, come say 'hi'! :)
Why will I be there? A local circus arts group hosts a #kink -friendly community #event with fire stuff, #aerial performances, and music. It's in #Minneapoils. It's a cash-only venue, cover is around $15, and the bar has non alcoholic options. The space is #WheelchairAccessible. Costumes highly recommend. 🖤✨
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switter (the sex worker instance) was closed because of literal actual government interference from numerous nations. please do the reading before painting fedi with a swerf or other reactionary brush. i want sex workers to be SAFE dammit and that means knowing when we can't responsibly be a part of your work. and sex work is work.
please read https://switter.at/ - their own words - before developing a Take.
- Pronouns
- She/They
- hangs out with people on
- https://cyberia.club
- Gender/orientation
- Demi-femme/Novi gender, demisexual/panromantic/polyamorous
- Hackerspace
- https://layerze.ro
i like kind machines. pro-people-not-dying. anti-nazi. anti-colonizer. pagan, but lazy about it.
I am #HardOfHearing, #nonbinary, polyamourous, into ttrpgs and #tech. Hobbyist #leatherworker, hobbyist scifi author, community builder, and artist.
I like to build #whimsical things that help people to #dream better and form meaningful connections. If you wanna hang out with friendly computer weirdos in Minneapolis, lemme know.
Profile image description: a watercolor painting of a person with pale skin and brown and blue hair laughing. They have a side cut and an audio processor is visible behind their ear. The art style is loose and the eyes are squinched into little crescents.
Joined Jul 2020
