starless @starless@pixie.town
- Pronouns
- She/They
- hangs out with people on
- https://cyberia.club
- Gender/orientation
- Demi-femme/Novi gender, demisexual/panromantic/polyamorous
- Hackerspace
- https://layerze.ro
i like kind machines. pro-people-not-dying. anti-nazi. anti-colonizer. pagan, but lazy about it.
I am #HardOfHearing, #nonbinary, polyamourous, into ttrpgs and #tech. Hobbyist #leatherworker, hobbyist scifi author, community builder, and artist.
I like to build #whimsical things that help people to #dream better and form meaningful connections. If you wanna hang out with friendly computer weirdos in Minneapolis, lemme know.
Profile image description: a watercolor painting of a person with pale skin and brown and blue hair laughing. They have a side cut and an audio processor is visible behind their ear. The art style is loose and the eyes are squinched into little crescents.
Joined Jul 2020
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"just trying to help" is like a very particular flavour of ableism
"don't push my wheelchair without my consent" - "i'm just trying to help"
"don't lecture me on scammy miracle cures" - "i'm just trying to help"
"stop trying to diagnose me with made-up fad conditions" - "i'm just trying to help"
"don't give me advice i didn't ask for" - "i'm just trying to help"
"no, i don't care which diet you think will cure my genetic disease" - "i'm just trying to help"
"please stop making suggestions for jobs you think i could do" - "i'm just trying to help"
"don't make assumptions about our needs without even asking" - "i'm just trying to help"
"please just give me the prescription i need instead of expecting me to somehow magically fix myself" - "i'm just trying to help"
"please stop forcing me into treatments and rehab programmes that only make me sicker" - "i'm just trying to help"
why are we supposed to be grateful for any of that?
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Listen up all you foolish mortals:
Someone talking about a weird thing their computer did is not a cry for help. *Especially* when said someone clearly said they solved the problem.
I understand this particular platform is very-much filled with computer nerds who want to be helpful, but please check whether help is being requested before you pop out of the woodwork like some sort of Clippy
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ALL SNAIL POSIX SHELL! 🐌
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Erotic art, partially nude men
Some oil paint sketches I did a few years ago, feels like a good place to show them. #gayart #eroticart
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In case you needed to hear it, trans and nonbinary people are an important part of my life. I am happy and secure in my masculinity because they exposed me to a world where I can be anyone I want, and I finally felt peace with being a man in a society with some awful ideas about what a man should be. If you enjoy my masculinity, consider accepting other people's expressions of their gender. Daddy says trans rights.
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"[Screen readers] often stumble on PDF files, which have long been the default digital format for journal articles and other research materials"
"In a detailed survey, six scientists with vision loss described how they frequently found themselves unable to access or read PDFs. One respondent mentioned that they encountered problems two-thirds of the time, and that they use at least six different approaches to read papers"
https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-023-00645-6
So please share article links as HTML not PDF!
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US pol, trans safety
So Minnesota is now officially a trans refuge state.
Not only are the state laws protecting queer folks in Minnesota, but folks who come to Minnesota for gender affirming care are safe from extradiction orders, subpeonas, and other attempts by states they leave to control them.
If you are looking to get out of dangerous spots, Minnesota just jumped to the top of the 'places to move' list.
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J'ai eu l'occas de revoir ce dessin de #huevember2021, et je l'aime toujours bien ' ^ '
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If you're still on my Patreon at the print & sticker tier, maybe you missed my announcement so: this tier was deleted in january.
I'm not handling physical rewards through Patreon anymore, if you'd like to continue receiving them, you can switch to my Ko-fi https://ko-fi.com/anaisfae/tiers
In any case it'd be great if you could edit (or cancel) your pledge because Patreon still charges you the same amount as before, and the only thing I can do is manually refund you each month.
@june there's boats you can rent off the northern coast of Wisconsin that are good, big, live on 'em sail boats. You can sail around the apostle Islands. I've heard it's a lovely trip with a handful of friends, though you do need to pay.
You might want to look up the size limits on various lakes before hanging around their clubs. I think a lot of the lakes here are too small for boats that big, iirc.
You might use a system like this, assuming your site has the technology to support it?
https://www.pocketbeancrafts.com/collections/all/products/gifting-abandoned-carts
International Women's Day, showing some love for trans women in technical spaces
@klara also, just a fit note-- I'm afab, and wear around a size 6-8 dress. I have wide shoulders and wide hips/thighs. I prefer things that don't put tension over my knees, so I look for pants that are a bit roomy.
Bra-wise, my girlfriend strongly recommends the b tempt'd line from Wacoal. She has a small frame, her dress size is around 2-4. There's a subreddit, r/abrathatfits , that may be able to give good advice.
International Women's Day, showing some love for trans women in technical spaces
@klara yes! I boosted two old threads, but...
My current favorite is Noctex for clothing. They do dead stock fabrics and ethically made stuff.
Buddaful Boutique has some nice things, but may be problematic in some ways. Typical yoga place vibe issues, nothing bigger.
House of Aris is amazing and bold and perfect.
CrisisWear is nice but expensive and I haven't had perfect luck with their fits.
Son de Fleur (etsy) makes amazing but expensive wrap dresses.
CryoFlesh is owned by a few nice friends of mine as a hobby project thingie.
Pocket bean crafts occasionally makes incredible clothing.
Sock Dreams is the OG of thigh highs that are actually thigh high, but Thunder Thighs is a rising star.
Carmen Liu now has a US distributor, but their thongs are too small for folks not in hormones, just FYI.
My secret for comfy wrap shirts is to order from https://www.bellahatailors.com/ . They also make custom wrap dresses.
I have found one fast fashion place that I do like for pants because it's so hard to find ones that are comfy with good pockets. I can't speak to their ethics, but Soft Surroundings has comfy pants that have a lot of stretch in them. Make sure they say they have pockets, though, because some do not. They often have sales.
See also https://social.pixie.town/@starless/106145166566413416 and https://social.pixie.town/@starless/104532518135869399 .
The woman I was talking with recommended Black Tailor, which looked really neat.
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transfemminine underthings recommendations thread, links, nsfw
Hi fedi!
Sometimes, friends or lovers want pretty underthings that are sized for trans bodies. Often, finding these things is a painful process. There's a lot of really crap sites that come up in search engines and, as someone who doesn't get squicked that same way, it's a way I can help.
This isn't a list of any particular merit, it's just the resources I'm aware of. I've bought from most, but not all, of the companies listed here and have been reasonably happy with the results.
Have a resource thread, boots and (well-labeled) additions welcome:
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alt fashion brands worth supporting [reviews], mention of dollskill, purchasing/money, police brutality
A month or so ago, some larger alternative fashion brands got hard-cancelled.
They'd been problematic for years, but some friends and I had struggled to find cool alternatives. And then one of them rallied in defense of police brutality and Geneva Convention violations, and frankly, it was the last straw. I decided that boycotting these brands wasn't enough-- I had to fall in love with their competition.
I set aside about $200 and decided I'd see what I could find from more ethical shops. If I can get threads working, this'll be a thread. :)
International Women's Day, showing some love for trans women in technical spaces
Happy international women's day.
About half the #women I interact with in an average week are #trans. Trans women make my life and the spaces I hang out in online immeasurably better. They've rounded sharp corners and added a sense of emotional availability that men just tend not to do. They bring an air of femininity to a space that helps me feel like I don't need to do extra social work to balance things out myself.
It's really wonderful.
Last week, at the local hackerspace, I had a great chat about ethical alternative clothing shops with knowledge and nuance. These conversations rarely happen when I talk to men-- not because they don't care, but just because the topic is more complicated for feminine clothing than masculine. There's deeper changes to manufacturing processes than men's clothing silhouettes seem to feel, so less nuance (and digging) is necessary to achieve a pretty reasonable effect in comparison. Anyways, it was great, and it just felt very 'normal'. But I've also never had such a good fashion conversation in a technical space before, which is interesting because fashion is a highly technical art. This was, in a small way, revolutionary.
When spaces make femininity a comfortable thing to bring, they make everyone else feel more comfortable being a wider breadth of themselves. You see wider ranges of expression from everyone. Making women feel more comfortable often helps everyone feel more comfortable.
When spaces restrict those energies, everyone feels it. When I'd been in technical spaces without women, I used the phrase "caustic culture" a lot. The feeling of this pervasive, inescapable, slow ooze that just eats away at you little by little. Since then, I've spent a lot more time in spaces without that energy. I can't think of a single online technical space that doesn't feel caustic that hasn't had trans women in it. As a professor of mine once said, correlationdoes not imply causation, but it does often waggle its eyebrows at it.
So, happy international women's day to all the women everywhere, and especially to the trans women that've helped make the spaces I've been in so comfy. So many of you are leaders, and you are all wonderful and beautiful beings capable of immense gentility and soft strength. Celebrate yourself a bit today. 💙
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@voidspace@mastodon.org.uk what kind of hearing loss?
I "short circuit" my loss using conductive headphones.
I'm sorry, I don't have good resources on super flat response headphones, but if you are interested in modifying the sound in your 'pipeline', and have about a week that you're willing to spend to figure it out, you can use a tympan sound processor to make your headphones adjust to your hearing loss prescription.
- Pronouns
- She/They
- hangs out with people on
- https://cyberia.club
- Gender/orientation
- Demi-femme/Novi gender, demisexual/panromantic/polyamorous
- Hackerspace
- https://layerze.ro
i like kind machines. pro-people-not-dying. anti-nazi. anti-colonizer. pagan, but lazy about it.
I am #HardOfHearing, #nonbinary, polyamourous, into ttrpgs and #tech. Hobbyist #leatherworker, hobbyist scifi author, community builder, and artist.
I like to build #whimsical things that help people to #dream better and form meaningful connections. If you wanna hang out with friendly computer weirdos in Minneapolis, lemme know.
Profile image description: a watercolor painting of a person with pale skin and brown and blue hair laughing. They have a side cut and an audio processor is visible behind their ear. The art style is loose and the eyes are squinched into little crescents.
Joined Jul 2020
