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Creating a new distinct sexual identity purely to explicitly exclude trans people is transphobic. You don't have to like each and every one of us, but do you really have to make a display of trans exclusionism and transphobia from it?

As a pan trans girl I mostly see this from lesbians. terms such as "gold star lesbian" and "real lesbian" seeking to exclude and degrade anyone who wasn't born with the right set of genitals and reduce women to people with the "right" genitals
(extremely feminist /s).

Whatever similar terms are for gay men are bad too. Please don't use these whatever your sexual preferences may be, they are hurtful and a reminder that we are not welcome. It's like if the straight transphobe guy who refers to a trans woman as a "trap" decided to form a sexual identity around avoiding them as well.

Also if you weren't aware these terms were bad, you've probably hurt someone without realizing it, so maybe consider apologizing to any trans people had to overhear you say it/post it, because that means a lot and I know many of us are too scared to speak up. When I hear people say these things it really hurts, and I usually just avoid them from there on out.

If you've read all the way through this post, thank you for listening. You're a wonderful ally :trans_heart: . Oh, and just so y'all know I'm not subposting anyone here, I'm mentioning this because I ran into it irl last night and it made me feel disgusting (for the most part I don't think I've seen anything like this here).

treating trans people nicely PSA / genitalia mention / slur mention 

@thufie

When I was a youth, a "gold star lesbian" was someone who had never even kissed a boy. A "silver star" was one who had never shagged a boy.

These terms have always been problematic, but it's disturbing to see them repurposed in this way.

treating trans people nicely PSA / genitalia mention / slur mention 

@celesteh oh wow I didn't know they were used like that before. that explains a lot.

treating trans people nicely PSA / genitalia mention / slur mention 

@thufie

In the mid-90s, yeah. While the bi-phobia is really obvious in retrospect, it was also an acknowledgement of the intense social pressure to conform and how that could lead being socially pressured into unwanted sex. The boy involved might be completely ignorant of any of this.

Times were grim, back in the day.

treating trans people nicely PSA / genitalia mention / slur mention 

@thufie

What does it explain for you?

treating trans people nicely PSA / genitalia mention / slur mention 

@celesteh well the people who use this often view trans women as just being boys, so it makes sense they'd borrow that term and reuse it for transphobia.

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