meta , fedi discourse, invisible ableism, chill out y'all pt2
thought this deserves a part 2 because I'm not sure I ended this on a point we could learn from last time, I was still pretty upset (rightfully, but I still needed to cool down).
Increasingly its like everyone on this website wants to put words in your mouth to win an argument by calling you racist or something based on something you never even said. Its worse than I remember reddit being. Some people are really so concerned about being even a little bit wrong that they'll just devolve into calling you names until you have to block them. Its this and then people with too much clout that are turning this network's culture into something indistinguishable from corporate social media by bringing over the worst and most toxic behaviors possible.
Its *social* media, try to understand who you are talking to and have a nice chat, you likely don't disagree sometimes even when you think you are disagreeing. Its more fun to explore topics with other people and try to agree on some things or explore why you disagree cooperatively than to participate in the bloodsport comment section culture of reddit which is a battle royale for who's original take was right that just results in namecalling and blocking.
Try to challenge yourselves to look at a "...but," in someone's reply as them seeking an opportunity to understand you, not disagree with you or completely challenge your beliefs. Fedi has mostly nice people on it thanks to our ability to keep transphobes, nazis, etc out, so don't be so pessimistic in your conversational attitude. People misunderstand, you misunderstand, and people change their minds too (I have!). Just be generous, or else this place's culture becomes a festering garbage pit and has no room for growth. If somebody says what you think is a bad take, either don't interact if you're too tired, or give them another chance to prove that they didn't quite mean it the way you interpreted it. People on here are nice and well-principled and y'all would be surprised how many times it turns out you are unintentionally reading their post with the worst intent possible because that's what places like reddit, twitter, and tumblr train you to do for clout.
Smol server part of the pixie.town infrastructure. Registration is approval-based, and will probably only accept people I know elsewhere or with good motivation.